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ecbpappi
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 Posted - 06/19/2011 : 09:30:16
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Buddy of mine is not happy, always second guessing the coach about most decisions. Hes even had several serious run ins with him, I think he is wrong on a lot of this stuff but that is me. Anyway, two questions:
1) What is the best way to approach a coach regarding questions on decisions made in a game, playing positions and or line up?
2) Should my bud be worried about being let go for being a pia?? Also, the whole team think the guy has fallen off the turnip truck twice. |
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Gwinnett
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Posted - 06/20/2011 : 14:10:15
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Without details it sounds like a cancer that should be gotten rid of!!
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Originally posted by ecbpappi
Buddy of mine is not happy, always second guessing the coach about most decisions. Hes even had several serious run ins with him, I think he is wrong on a lot of this stuff but that is me. Anyway, two questions:
1) What is the best way to approach a coach regarding questions on decisions made in a game, playing positions and or line up?
2) Should my bud be worried about being let go for being a pia?? Also, the whole team think the guy has fallen off the turnip truck twice.
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ecbinsider
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Posted - 06/20/2011 : 22:21:47
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I think you need to have a talk as to why these decisions are being made, get the coaches perspective on the whole situation. think many would be surprised by what they hear from coach and other parents really. It's okay to disagree with coach but just explain why you feel your point is valid so he knows. Some will listen and others who run it like a king will not.
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rustybucket
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Posted - 06/21/2011 : 08:19:54
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1. If a hostile environment stage has been previously set, there is probably not a good way to do this. Simply put, these were the coaches decision. He was put in the position to make these decisions and is responsible for them. Coaches make mistakes too (if these were even really mistakes).
2. PIA, and cancer are two different things. I don't mind having a few parents who are pia's as long as it's 'reasonable'. I don't mind parents disagreeing with me, it's baseball that's gonna happen. But when parent(s) start spreading their negative attitude and outlook to other positive parents, that's when I have a problem.
I try to set up communication ground rules at the beginning of each season, and sometimes re-iterate them during the season. It doesn't sound like the current coach has done this. The coach needs to set clear ground-rules as to what an acceptable form of communication is.
1. Parents are not to talk to me (to discuss 'issues') within 24hrs of the end of a game/tourney. After this 'cool down period' they can call, email or schedule a face-to-face meeting with me and I will discuss with them anything they want. I personally love talking baseball!!
2. I will not directly discuss playing position or playing time with a parent or child. (as in 'Can Jimmy play first?') I will discuss what Jimmy can do or needs to work on in order to have a chance at first. What skills he needs to improve upon.
3. If there's a problem, talk to me about it in private. I do not discuss problems at the ballfield, in front of kids or other parents. If you have a problem we will discuss it in private. Don't sit on a problem for half the season and let it marinate, stew and fester until you can't reasonably discuss and work it out. Simply put, if I don't know about a 'problem' I cannot remedy or fix it or come to a reasonable resolution. From my experience most of these perceived problems stem from a lack of communication between parent and coach.
Long story short, if your friend has such a big problem with the coach he should walk away, or be a coach himself since he seems to know the game perfectly.
It's very easy to sit and second guess a coach, but when you're put in that position you look at things from a different aspect. If it's baseball strategy your friend has a problem with then he probably just needs to chill. Otherwise approach the coach in a calm, collected manner IN PRIVATE, not after a game, not after/during/before a practice. Don't 'ambush' the coach. Give him a call and just chew the fat over it. Who knows he might agree with your friend on some things. I know that as a coach I'll be the first to admit my mistakes. Usually I realize my mistakes about 2 seconds after the decision is made  |
Edited by - rustybucket on 06/21/2011 13:09:48 |
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